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OUR VISION & MISSION

OUR VISION

Our vision is to strengthen communities by calling men to step up to mentor teenage boys on their journey towards healthy manhood.

OUR MISSION

Our mission is to recruit, train, and empower communities of men to mentor teenage boys through on-site circles, adventure outings, and contemporary rites of passage.

OUR CHALLENGE

REDUCE THE NUMBER OF BOYS GROWING UP WITHOUT RELIABLE MEN IN THEIR LIVES

Many of the greatest social and political problems we face today are related to crises over manhood.

When a young boy grows up without positive, reliable male role models in his life, he is at increased risks related to violence, mental health, and addiction. Despite this fact, the problem of fatherlessness and abusive, or absent, men continues to increase:

our boys need our help. 

 

THE EPIDEMIC

  • Since 1960 the rate of U.S. boys without fathers has quadrupled.

  • An estimated 24.7 million children do not live with their biological father.

  • 43% of urban teens live away from their father. 

  • 42% of fathers fail to see their children at all after divorce. 

  • 1 in 6 black men had been incarcerated as of 2001. If current trends continue, 1 in 3 black males born today will spend time in prison in his lifetime.

THE CONSEQUENCES

  • 85% of youths in prisons grew up in a fatherless home. 

  • 71% of high school dropouts come from fatherless homes.

  • 80% of rapists with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.

  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes.

  • Gang membership increased from 50,000 in 1975 to 1,150,000 in 2008.

  • 90% of homeless children are from fatherless homes.

  • 85% of children with behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. 

  • 90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live with only their mother. 

  • Fatherless boys are 4 times more likely to need help for emotional or behavioral problems. 

THE FINANCIAL COST

  • 5% of the adult male population is or has been in prison, costing taxpayers $75 billion a year.

  • The prison incarceration rate more than quadrupled since 1975. 

  • A boy leaving high school to enter into a life of crime or drug abuse can cost his community $1.7–$2.3 million in his lifetime.

OUR SOLUTION

Our community mentoring approach is drawing high praise from many directions. With our core, three-program approach, boys are finding ways to connect to the good men of Boys to Men Tucson, having fun, and benefiting from their involvement. Parents are seeing positive changes in their sons and appreciating our work too. School principals, administrators and teachers are excited about our school-based groups. They are realizing what the research has indicated, our groups improve academic performance, attendance, and demeanor of boys, while reducing discipline issues, expulsions, and dropout rates.

 

MENTORSHIP WORKS

Watch this video to hear the story of how Boys to Men has affected these 7 courageous boys.

HOW IT WORKS:

Our mentorship model is rooted in the principles of Model, Accept, Listen, & Encourage (MALE).

  1. Model -  We teach through example more often than with words. We behave as we want him to learn to behave. We are guided by the awareness that “Children do as we do, not as we say.” We seek to show up as good and honest men, knowing that for better or worse, the boys will emulate us.

  2. Accept - We meet the boy where and as he is, without judgment. We seek to form a relationship with him as he is now and learn about his world. We see his beauty and his wounds and make room for both in our heart. While we are interested in where he might need to be and what he has the potential to become, our primary focus is on accepting him just as he is now.

  3. Listen - With quietly focused attention; free of judgment, analyzing, critique or responses we give the boy time and our complete attention to be sure he has had the opportunity to express the “Heart of the Matter”. To be certain that we have understood, we reflect what was said in our own words so that he knows that he has been heard.

  4. Encourage -  We use simple, clear and direct words to express, from the heart, the beauty, honesty, courage, and compassion the boy offers. We take opportunities to sincerely reflect the boys positives back to him in a genuine way.

WHAT WE DO!

Our mentorship is rooted in refusing the urge to Fix, Rescue, Advise, or Project (FRAP).

  1. Fix - We don’t provide the boy suggestions or directions as to how he should deal with his life. We don’t jump in to solve his problems for him. We do not respond with quick solutions.

  2. Rescue - We don’t interact in ways that minimize, cover or deny feelings, his or our own. We don’t offer advice, cliché’s or otherwise redirect him from experiencing his feelings. We support him in owning his feelings and guide him to his inner resources.

  3. Advise - We resist the temptation to offer advice, especially unsolicited advice. We are not in a position to take responsibility for the boys life or for outcomes. Our responsibility is to guide him to his own Truth.

  4. Project -  We are careful not to confuse our issues with the boy’s, We do not work out our unresolved childhood wounds through the boy. We remember that it is our role to remain a neutral lighthouse for them.

WHAT WE DON'T DO!

"They saved my son from heaven knows what could have happened to him... gangs, drugs, jail or worse."

– Mother of a Middle School BTMT Program Participant

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